Some thoughts about Niteflirt

 Niteflirt.

 It's where you go to lose money, and possibly be entertained.

The first time I ventured onto Niteflirt was in January 2021, to send a message to SoftSandalWood - a California (if I'm remembering right) based dominatrix with, quite frankly, a very wholesome take on all things sissy fetishism related. 

I was incredibly inexperienced (as everyone is at some point). We had a rather enlightening conversation, which became a bit stilted when I outlined my previous experiences with doms IRL - and she brought up the question, "why was I looking for someone online?"

I've come to the conclusion that I have an itch that needs scratching - and it's a transactional one. There's something wonderful about doing a kink scene with someone else in real life, or online, for the fun and mutual benefit of it - keeping things SSC, RACK, all that kind of stuff, without any financial entanglement - but at the same time, I like paying for the professional engagement. 

In real life encounters, paying for a professional dominatrix (or at least one of well-renown) is a soft-guarantee that you'll have your dreams come true, to at least some degree - you have someone who knows what they're doing, with experience, and they can make a fantasy become real.

Online? It's a bunch of landmines. There are listings on NF that have great reviews - but have the worst call quality imaginable. There are interesting listings, that may or may not have good reviews - but the person doesn't know what they're doing, or doesn't do what you want them to do. Having to have a whole hashed out conversation in chat or mail isn't something a lot of these PSOs are interested in doing, though - and it's not something I'd like to really do either. 

 There's something toxic, but exciting, about just calling someone up and getting right into it. Or, as right into it as I can. I can't help but start every call with "My name's Andrew, it's nice to meet you," because I'm a polite idiot - but still. I want to get lost in a fantasy, get trapped in a roleplay - submit - and it isn't easy. There's a lot of leading to do, and a lot of "do this, don't do this" kind of background warning stuff that goes on. 

Niteflirt is an interesting place - so, I advise checking it out. But I'd say be ready to spend a lot, and not enjoy about half of it.